Friday, April 1, 2011

the bridge of forgiveness

ask yourself: how far can we forgive, and how often?

in a world like this, so vast and wide yet full of souls of different needs and likes, giving forgiveness has become an act of humankind so sincere and loving that even the Prophet Muhammad SAW has once said, on the authority of Anas, who said: I heard the messenger of Allah say:

Allah the Almighty has said: “O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as its.

once, there was a sahabat whom Rasulullah PBUH once showed the others as the promised occupant of Jannah.of course, the other sahabats started investigating ,just what kind of deed, that this particular sahabat does that gained him a place in last,it was known that this sahabat's amals were just the same as the others.but what differentiated him was that he would always forgave others.every night before closing his eyes,he would forgave everyone's mistakes, regardless who they are.

it seems easy to say- to give our forgiveness to those who once hurted us, tore our hearts and aggrieved our feelings.but is it that easy?

was there a time, that we were so upset with someone and the next day we accidently bumped into him or her, giving a sincere smile without the slightest hint of pretend? if so, then i'd like to congratulate u. why? because in you, you have that self-endurance (ketahanan jiwa) and a strong heart in the eyes of Allah SWT because Rasulullah PBUH himself told us that the strongest person amongst us is those who can suppress his anger in times that he is angry.

remember, لا تغضب.

therefore, to give our forgiveness requires both strengths of iman and inner self (jiwa)
 iman, because when we have the strongest faith of what Allah about to give us that we let go of what we have.the most important being, 'ego'. its when we are confident of Allah's promises that we can forgive others.
we need the strength of innerself because only those it will look upon a small problem as small and appreciate the lesson that big ones bring.

i know its hard.but i too have gone thru a phase where i had to make a hard decision.i thot that one was the hardest i could ever handle.but someone told me that there are still harder tests to come.and hopefully by that time,im strong enuf to face it.i learnt to forgive myself.

to receive forgiveness from God there are three requirements:

- recognizing the offense itself and its admission before God.
- making a commitment not to repeat the offense.
- asking for forgiveness from God.

if the offense was committed against another human being, or against society, a fourth condition is added:
- recognizing the offense before those against whom offense was committed and before God.
- committing oneself not to repeat the offense.
- doing whatever needs to be done to rectify the offense (within reason) and asking pardon of the offended party.
- asking God for forgiveness.
there are no particular words to say for asking forgiveness. However, Muslims are taught many phrases and words to keep repeating daily asking God’s forgiveness.for example:

- Astaghfiru-Allah, “I ask forgiveness from Allah”
Subhanaka-Allah humma wa bi hamdika wa ash-hadu al la Ilaha illa Anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilayk, “Glory be to You, Allah, and with You Praise (thanks) and I bear witness that there is no deity but You, I ask Your forgiveness and I return to You (in obedience)”.
now,forgiving is like crossing a bridge.imagine that ure crossing a bridge.where ur only life utterly depends on it.with the river below so violent and the surface below ur feet so fragile.but somehow in the middle,someone told u..

"Look,dont u see that beautiful waterfall at the end? Go, and dont stop!"

as u cross this bridge, think about forgiveness.its difficult, but possible.
and that what gave u the strength to carry on.

many a times in our life, we face situations that we dont expect - broken relationships, broken trusts, blablabla, and all we do is sigh (women cry a lot.hehe.) .but one thing we'll learn,is that life must go on, and all the burdens must be unloaded thru forgiveness of urself and forgiveness of others.

once i forgave offenses, i noticed that i couldnt forget them but every time i remembered them, i smiled. there are no more pains brought just by the thought of them.after all,aint life just beautiful? despite all the hardships, pains, and difficulties life teaches us to be strong in facing any adversity while at the same time makes us compassionate to those who suffer.but still, how can we ever get the idea that if we dont forgive others theyll suffer?

Rasulullah PBUH himself was a man of forgiveness.he's kind heart and gentleness captivated the hearts of his mad'us.had he not been one, it'll be difficult for Islam as Rahmatan-lil-'aalamin.

By the grace of Allah, you (Muhammad) are gentle towards the people, if you had been stern and harsh-hearted, they would have dispersed from around you.
- Surah Al-Imran : 159

therefore,if u ever feel hurt..just remember the bridge of forgiveness.its DIFFICULT, but POSSIBLE.

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p/s : pardon me for some phrases are better off written in malay.i think.memartabatkan bahasa melayu lepas ni.yah! :)
p/p/s : sometimes all you can do is to laugh to keep urself from crying.


Izzati said...

women cry a lot? du-uh! memang nak kena. bukankah munajat setiap mukmin itu bertemankan air mata tak kira lelaki mahupun perempuan?

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Syafawani said...

forgiving is hard kan? tapi ganjarannya besor-besor..! kalau orang tu,dia biasa2 je,x de la pemaaf or penyabar sgt,moderate je tapi dia x simpan dendam..ok kan?

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najihahusna said...

memartabat bahasa melayu.